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So it is: Women leave the men they love

As a consultant working with men and women in crisis situations in relationships, I can help my clients, there are many reasons to swim to the end of the weddingAlthough many situations are complex, there is a deep truth that everyone should know. It breaks the heart to pieces. They gather all their reserves of courage and energy and leave. Women leave men with whom they have children, homes and lives together. Women leave for many reasons, but there is one reason that particularly haunted me. What men should understand: work, play Golf, play games, watch TV, fish.

The list is long.

These people are not bad. There are good people. They are good fathers.

Support their families.

I'm pretty, honey. But take your wife for granted.

Women in my office tell me how much"Someone could come up and make me invisible at the feet of my husband, who is literally drying out."Sometimes this realization makes them afraid.

Sometimes they cry. I tell you what I see. You can be as angry, hurt, or upset as you want. Your wife is not your property. She didn't sell you her soul. You have to earn money. Day after day, moment after moment. You can win a woman only by your presence, by your life force. She must feel it. I want to talk to you about what's bothering her, and I want to hear you talk. Non-glamorous billboards. Definitely not the devil lawyer's game. You want me to hear them.

Men - I'm not saying it's right or wrong

I don't want Tentoni or fast sex to be absent.

I want to hear your passion.

I would like to hear your passion.

You can show it. This is the most attractive property you have. If you lost, then why? Where did he go? I find outside to find your passion. If you have a passion, you have never discovered it, so you live with the times.

If you think you are perfectly present with your wife, trying to listen to her.

With your thoughts about space. When you look at it: how many of you do you see? Listen again, look intensely. Acquainted with them. Look, stay longer than usual, longer than you like.

When he asks you what you are doing, tell him,"I am looking inside you."I want you to look inside.

I'm curious to know who you are. After all these years, I want you to know every day anew. But just tell me if you you really do say that, if you know it's true. Touch it with all your attention.

First grab it, feel the feeling of your hand.

Make sure that you are currently making a random contact.

What happens in your body.

Look at the kids, at the feelings and sensations. (Which sometimes becomes awareness), start with what you feel, every moment.

But you're busy.

That's why you don't have time. Not even five minutes. Five minutes every day. You will be able to invest this time. I'm not talking about extravagance, dinner or foreign nights out (although that's also great). I'm talking about five minutes a day, you're a woman who devotes herself to her shared life. To be open is to listen and see without judging. I'll bet you that you've only started once and you don't want to stop. Judge Schoenferber is a certified Hakomi therapist, one - on-one counseling, marriage counseling, coaching and mentoring for individuals and couples on issues that create, create, or break up a relationship. Meet by phone and Skype around the world. Email address for the client request information package. This post is the original. The Huffington Post is a discussion platform for all perspectives. If your political or social discussions are ongoing, advertise that you want to send your idea to our blog team.

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